So the year is quickly approaching the end and as it does a few things have been bothering me as of late. So as we start a new month, and we’re one month closer to the new year I’ve decided to create a new series on this blog called “You do you“, each month I will post a blog called “You do you: [insert topic]” where I will be discussing a topic that I feel I need to address. It may be in the style of a journal entry, a discussion, a Q&A or series of tips I want to share.
So without further ado, the first blog of the series:
You do you: Take care of yourself.
So with everything in life it’s easy to become overwhelmed with stress, as I’ve gotten older I’ve realised that although stress is not a choice, there are ways of helping yourself cope. There came a moment in my adult life when it just clicked that a lot of my stresses were caused by my need at that time to please others, so of course it goes without saying that I then decided to STOP TRYING TO PLEASE OTHERS. When I decided to do this a weight was lifted, now of course it’s not possible to stop trying to please everyone as I’m a university student so therefore there I do need to please some people, however I stopped trying to please those that in my mind are not important to please.
DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY, something I try to live by everyday. Eat foods you enjoy, watch the shows you enjoy, wear what makes you comfortable, study the degree you want and follow a career that makes you happy. Of course there’s a balance to be struck as responsibility sometimes outweighs your own wants but that’s why I always try to TAKE TIME OUT OF EVERY DAY TO SPEND TIME ON YOU, whether that’s by going for a walk, snuggling a pet or significant other, reading a book or doing something that comforts you and that you enjoy.
Along with taking time out every day to de-stress and unwind, I am a big advocate of LOOKING AFTER YOUR BODY TO LOOK AFTER YOUR MIND. Since I started working out 4-5 times a week, eating better and cutting out/down toxic habits such as sodas, caffeine and alcohol I’ve found my mental state is a lot better, of course I’m not perfect I still need to fix my sleep and my anxiety still affects me daily but I’m coping better. Probably the surge of endorphins and the fact that I no longer feel ill because I’m eating better. However, another reason I’m feeling better is that finally after years of struggling on my own I decided to seek help for my anxiety and panic attacks. I had always been afraid of people thinking I was weak if I told them about my mental health problems, that’s the best thing I have done and I recommend that if you are struggling, overwhelmed and hurting to TALK TO SOMEONE. Be it a doctor, a friend, your significant other, just talk to them.
So that’s the first of the ‘You do you’ series.
My question for you: What do you do to take care of yourself?