Life is stressful, everyone knows this. But as I said in [New Series] “You do you: Take care of yourself”, all you can do is – do what makes you happy, spend time on yourself everyday and stop trying to please others. Easier said than done I know but sometimes the way to a happier you is literally having “no f**ks to give” in regards to what others think about you.
Something that continues to annoy me is being constantly told I’m too old to obsess over things like Harry Potter or Disney but at the end of the day nothing makes me happier than curling into bed or up on the sofa with my HP pjs, drinking a tea or coffee from my Hedwig or one of my special Disney mugs and watching a film.; be it Disney, Studio Ghibli or other. And why should what other people’s opinion on what is “appropriate” for my age matter? It doesn’t. Everyone needs an outlet, or two, or many to get away from the stresses of the dreaded ADULTING. So whether you enjoy knitting, painting, reading. learning a new language or like me collecting and obsessing over all things Disney, Harry Potter and Ghibli – you do you.
Following on from what I was talking about above, another thing that is brought up often is my lifestyle. I dress how I feel; some days that’s a graphic tee and leggings other days it’s a gothic dress with platforms, I live for matte lipsticks usually in strange colours and I’m covered in tattoos and piercings, my house is plain but “geek chic” and I workout 4-5 days a week although I still haven’t given up junk food (something I need to work on) and you know what that’s just me. Your appearance, choice of decor and lifestyle shouldn’t define you as a person, instead choose to do things that make you happy (within reason of course if it’s illegal I’d stay clear lol).
Career. It’s the big one that “adults” like to bring up often. I’m unemployed. Something most will remind me often. However I chose to go back to uni to get my Masters and that takes up a lot of my time, my MA is in a field that most consider “dead-end” (Fine Art) but I chose it for me and my end goal. Same goes for blogging, others tell me it will go nowhere but I do it because I enjoy engaging with others, writing and exploring new things, not for followers or views (although I’m grateful for them) and especially not for money. Pick a career YOU love, not something that others deem a “good” career choice; if you want to be a lawyer go to uni and study law, you’re happy working in retail, a coffee shop or being self-employed good for you, same goes for those stay at home parents. Don’t settle for a job because others say you have to, instead work hard and go for your dreams whatever those may be.
In the end you can’t please everyone but one person you can always ensure is happy is yourself, you give yourself more stress trying to be what others want than being yourself, so why continue trying to do so?